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Author Spotlight: Robin Marvel

robin marvel_speakingToday Writer’s Zen welcomes author Robin Marvel as our guest. Robin is the author of several books focusing on self development and self-esteem. Her newest book, Life Check, contains inspirational tips and steps to improve the quality of anyone’s life.

Robin, you are very open about your less than perfect childhood and you own up to how with your own choices you were a teen mother. You don’t use your past to place the blame on anyone else. With your inner strength and the convictions you have, you chose not to repeat the cycles you grew up with. You’ve succeeded and you use your life to encourage and inspire others. You’re now a motivational speaker (getting busier month by month!) and you’re a published author with five books. 

What was it that gave you the courage to break free from your past and step out into new territory?

My courage to break out of my past and into new territory really came from the desire to live a better life than I grew up in.  I made the choice to not repeat the pattern because I wanted more for myself and especially for my own children.   

How did you discover that you wanted to write your first book?

I discovered I wanted to write my first book because I homeschool my five daughters and I wanted to give them something that focused on building strong self-esteem and something that was really hands on so they had to be involved with the empowerment of their own lives.  I searched for a book but I was unable to find what I was looking for so I decided to write it!

Did your writing lead you into speaking? Or, your speaking into writing?

My writing inspired my speaking.  I started doing hands-on workshops that get people up and active in their own empowerment.  I am all about getting people on their feet, having fun while adding confidence and personal strength!

I see that helping the homeless is one of your passions. You frequently post about food drives and outreach programs that you’re involved in. How did this mission become important to you?

Helping the homeless is a huge passion of mine.  It is so important to me because growing up we were homeless many times and I made the decision when I was in 3rd grade that I would be a helping hand for the homeless.  My goal is not just be a hand out but a hand up by teaching confidence, self-esteem and worth to the homeless.  Giving them a reason to start believing in themselves so they will see and live their potential.  Sometimes people just need a reminder to realize how amazing they really are and that they deserve a great life.

If people aren’t near your local area, are there ways that your readers and followers can help you in your pursuits there?

Everyone can be of help in their own areas as well in my missions. I take donations for the IMPACT kits we supply to the homeless.  The most important way people can help in by taking action in their own areas.  Be the change!

Do you have any advice to encourage people in ways to reach out to their own local community to help others in need?

The best advice to those who want to help is to take action!  You have to get out there and get involved.  There are so many small ways to help those in need. Never underestimate what you can do. Just dropping food off at your local pantry helps put food on someone’s table.  Stop talking and start doing!

In your most recent book, Life Check, you have 7 Steps to Balance Your Life.

* Rock the boat
* Leave your baggage
* Raise the bar
* Push the limits
* Setting life in motion
* Lose sight of the shore
* Live today to create tomorrow

If you had to choose one to implement over all the others, which one would you choose?

It is hard to just choose one because they are all so powerful in the balancing of your life!  They work hand in hand.

What would you like us to know about Life Check?

Life Check is written for everyday people that the world belongs to, the people like you and I who are working every day to live passionately and to experience a life full of happiness, success and joy.  It provides many tried and true methods that I learned the hard way- you know, the old school was of trial and error.  Now I want to share them with you so you can skip the trial and error, wasting no time and start to experience joy, passion and happiness in your daily living.

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Where can people find you and your books?

Robin Marvel

Amazon

Barnes and Noble

Robin, thank you for joining us today and sharing your heart with us. You’re a phenomenal woman and I’m glad that our lives have crossed in this life. Keep living, loving, growing, and inspiring us all.

Thank you so much for allowing me the opportunity to share with you.  Keep Being Amazing!!

Life Check: Robin Marvel

Balance Your Life in 2014

robin marvel_lifecheckA new year is on the horizon. Many of us use this time to reevaluate our lives and set new goals for the clean slate ahead of us. 2014 is no different. Looking at the 365 days coming our way, we have a choice.

Choices – we all have them. We can choose to let our past and the negative experiences in our life keep us from living an optimum life or … we can choose to move on and live an empowered life. Robin Marvel, author of LIFE CHECK – 7 STEPS TO BALANCE YOUR LIFE! chose the later. Situations in her childhood would have kept many of us locked into dysfunctional patterns, crippling our adult lives. Robin acknowledges that her young adult life had some unwise choices. She could have remained there, repeating the cycles and struggling through life. She chose not to. Robin chose to recreate her life, a life of empowerment, courage and strength.

She chose a different path than what she had been shown as a child. Robin is now the author of five books and is a popular motivational speaker. Her latest book, Life Check – 7 Steps to Balance Your Life!, was nominated for two awards in 2013; the 97th Annual Society of Midland Book Award, and the 2013 Pushcart Book Award. Robin’s other books are: Reshaping Reality: Creating Your Life, Awakening Consciousness: A Girl’s Guide, Awakening Consciousness: A Boy’s Guide, and Awakening Consciousness: A Woman’s Guide.

Today, Robin joins Writer’s Zen as a guest, sharing an excerpt from her latest book, encouraging us to forgive and heal as one step in balancing our life. Let’s step into 2014 together, balancing our lives one step at a time.

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Leave Your Baggage~ Excerpt “Life Check-7 Steps to Balance Your Life!”

If you are like me, you have made some choices, big and small, that you’d rather not look at again, but it is important to face all aspects of who you are so you can forgive and heal. Healing is an inside job and it must start with you. One of the most important things you can do on your path to success is to forgive yourself and others. Forgiveness is by far one of the most powerful words in existence, and will change your life forever. Although it is not always the easiest task, it is imperative to move forward and experience emotional closure. The first thing to understand about forgiving is that it is not something you do for other people, it is something you do for yourself. It is allowing yourself to break free from the heaviness of anger and frustration. These negative emotions will eat at you physically, mentally and emotionally, taking away from your happiness. Start with forgiving yourself. After all, you cannot give what you don’t have, so if you are unable to forgive yourself, you will struggle with forgiving others. Everyone has a past. Some are neat and tidy while others are scarred with battle wounds. If your past is one with battle wounds you have proof that no matter what you faced, it has passed and you survived! Now you need to figure out if you are willing to embrace those scars and heal them, or cover them up with a fake smile and conformity. Only you can make this choice.

Life Check 2-1: Past is Present — How much of your present life are you losing to your past, to the person you use to be? Are you still blaming yourself for something you should have, could have done? Here is a challenge for you. Carry around a suitcase full of rocks. Each boulder symbolizes an emotion like shame, guilt, should have, could have—(insert your word here) and bring this heavy burden with you everywhere you go. There is no setting it down; you must carry it at all times. Don’t you think that would get exhausting? I know it would. So, why then do you insist on carrying the weight of your past like that? This is what you do when you hold on to guilt, remorse and anger for who you use to be, choices you use to make. Allowing yourself to be exhausted and defeated, struggling with the present all based on your actions in the past.

Life Check 2-2: Baggage Check — Evaluate how your past baggage is preventing you from moving forward. What do you need to release, make a list and start unpacking. You aren’t the only one. We all have this baggage that we think is necessary to keep with us, holding on to it, thinking that we are better people if we feel guilty about our past actions. When you tell yourself that you must be accountable for who you were then, it allows past emotions to manipulate the present. You are your biggest critic and can really give yourself a hard time. The fact of the matter is that we have all done crazy things and said things in the past that we wish we could take back, and that is part of living and growing. You do not get a “do-over” for the past, but you can make a choice in the present to let go of it. Forgiving yourself allows freedom from the emotional baggage, releasing the guilt and disappointment you have attached to those situations. Embrace your experiences, good and bad, and appreciate the growth they provided. Use your “get out of jail free” card and allow yourself peace of mind. Face it, you are not given a manual for living, and it can be easy to lose direction. These lessons were necessary to build your character, and to help build who you are in this moment. The fact is, you have tied so much emotion to the action you took or didn’t take that you are unable to let it go. Today, look at the situation and search for the lesson that was provided. Accept the lesson, accept your choice and move forward. Finding the strength to forgive yourself will remove the heaviness you carry with you. This allows you to live life with the happiness and peace that you deserve. Many years ago, when I was around twenty-two years old, I made the choice to go on a drinking binge, and I lost complete control of who I was. For four months I was not a very good mother or wife, because my focus was on drinking every night. I was repeating a pattern from my childhood. There were days when I didn’t even see my daughter, because I was sleeping all day to prepare for the night out. When I thought of these days, I used to feel disappointed in myself, it was very unfair to the people that I love the most in my life. It would be very easy for me to carry around the energy of my past and punish myself in the present, but I made the choice to forgive myself and to learn from the experience, allowing myself to live fully in the present. I have apologized to my husband, my daughter and to myself. I realize that I am human and I learned many lessons from that point in my life and I appreciate that. Be kind to yourself for your past choices, because they don’t define who you choose to be today.

Life Check 2-3: Learning from Mistakes — Give yourself a break. You are human and making mistakes is part of learning. So, relax and quit holding yourself hostage in your own mind. Look at past situations and search for the lesson that was provided to you. Accept the lesson, Accept your choice and Move Forward. Use what you have learned from your past to share with others facing the same situations. Encourage them by being an example that everything will be okay.

Who are you mad at? What is the one name that makes all the blood rush to your head? You probably know someone who infuriates you. This is someone, somewhere who has been rude to you and hurt you emotionally, mentally and/or physically, and you cannot imagine forgiving them. They have just caused way too much pain for you and must pay for it. You vow revenge and have lost a part of who you are to the hatred you feel. I recently did a workshop at a domestic violence shelter and started to share the topic of forgiveness, the way I am discussing it here. I was focusing on the importance of forgiving those who have wronged you no matter the extent, not for the other person but for yourself. Encouraging the idea that forgiving others allows you to take your power back and frees you from all the hurt associated with the situation. A woman who had been battered raised her hand and said, “I’ll never forgive my husband for what he did to me, Never.” I responded to her by sharing that the more anger you have, the longer you hold the hatred for him, the longer he holds your power. I told her that every time she gets mad, curses him and talks about how much she cannot forgive him, he wins—because in those moments he is in control of her emotions and she is giving away her power to him by feeling that same anger she felt in that moment he abused her. She got a look on her face and told me “I haven’t ever thought of that, it makes sense to me.” It was her “aha” moment. Now she can move forward in her life and be free from the emotions of her abusive husband. He lost some of his hold that day! Now it’ll take work, because she will have to look within and really forgive the situation but she is one step closer to freeing herself from his emotional hold. Continuing to carry a grudge and be angry at the person who wronged you is only hurting yourself. As the great Buddha said, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” I could not agree more. Each time you harbor that anger and resentment, you lose part of your happiness. Why would you willingly sacrifice one moment, giving your power away to someone who angers you? If they were so horrible to you, do not continue to feed their negativity. Be in charge of your emotions and give no one your power. I am in no way suggesting you forget what was done to you, all I am saying is that it is time to forgive and let it go, freeing yourself. When you make that decision, you will physically feel a weight lifted from your shoulders and the relief of taking your power back.

Follow Robin at: www.robinmarvel.com or find her on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/robin.marvel1

Stay tuned … new features on the way!

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Writer’s Zen is bringing you two new features in 2014.

PROSE FROM THE PROS, a post with writing advice from the professionals, will post on the first of each month. Each month bring you advice on different topics. January 1st is our debut post, WRITING SUCCESS IN 2014. Successful, published authors share their tips for writing success. (Shhhh …. I’ve seen some of the advice already and I think you’ll like it. This advice, if followed, will benefit our writing and our careers. I’m not going to say any more – stay tuned and come back January 1st to read what professional authors advise.)

Writer’s Zen is adding guest posts for our readers. On December 27th, Robin Marvel will kick off this new feature with a guest post and an excerpt from her new release. Other popular authors, including C. Hope Clark and Barbara Sinor, along with others are scheduled for future posts. 2014 is going to be a great year!

Stay tuned for more fun!

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